Lesson 1

Love Comes From God†

God's Gift to Us

Love Comes From God†† †††††††† †††††††† †††††††† God's Gift to Us

Genesis 2:† Seeing Godís plan for marriage and sex

Genesis 2:18-25, †††† Acts 17:11

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Bible Verses

Genesis 2:18-25 (New International Version)

 18 The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

 19 Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.
      But for Adam no suitable helper was found.
21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

 23 The man said,
       "This is now bone of my bones
       and flesh of my flesh;
       she shall be called 'woman, '
       for she was taken out of man."

 24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

 25 The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

 

Acts 17:11 (New International Version)

Now the Bereans were of more noble character than the Thessalonians, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true.

Notes (The full text for the lesson)

 

Welcome  to Exciting True Love: The Truth Will Set You Free.† I am Nancy Crane and this is a 10-week series designed to help you understand more about a subject that is talked about in newspapers, magazines, and at kitchen parties. Boys and girls talk about it separately, with lots of laughter.

 

We seldom go to authorities on this subject but simply talk, giving our opinions, listening intently to hear anything that we might not have heard before. Our lack of knowledge can get us into trouble because what we think about a subject will affect our actions.

 

I invite you to study this subject over the next 10 weeks with me. The purpose of the study is so that youíll have more truth about the subject. Then you can compare what you hear about the subject with that truth.

 

This series was recorded before a live audience in Dar es Salaam, Tanzania.

 

Lesson:

I want to start talking about love by starting at what is often considered the culmination of love, where love can take you ... into marriage, into a sexual relationship. I want to look at that part so it is clear in our minds. Iíd like to study Godís design for sex. And to do that letís begin in the first book of the Bible, Genesis 2:18 where we read:

 

The Lord God said, ďIt is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.Ē

 

Who is God speaking about? Adam, the first man on earth. God created him and put him in the magnificent Garden of Eden. Adam is in a perfect relationship with God. At this point in time Adam had done no wrong, sin had not yet entered the world.

 

It is interesting that in that perfect relationship with God, Adam was still alone and God said that wasnít good. God is going to fix that situation by making a suitable helper for Adam. That suitable helper, sometimes called helper-companion, or a helpmate, is Adamís wife. So a wife is a companion, a helper, a helpmate.

 

Notice, Adam didnít need a servant. He needed someone because he was alone in life Ė a companion, a companion that could help him. Thatís significant role. Iím to be my husbandís companion, his helpmate companion.

 

So God brings by all the animals and birds and Adam gives them names. And we pick up reading the Bible at that point in Genesis 2 at the end of verse 20.

 

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the manís ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

 

So letís picture this scene more completely. Is Adam naked? Sure. Sin hasnít entered the world yet, so he is naked. Now, Eve, sheís freshly made, is she naked too? Of course!

 

So God is bringing her to Adam.† I can imagine them walking, Godís arm around Eve, or perhaps holding her hand, bringing her to Adam. And Adam sees them.

 

Now, we know that generally men are sexually excited by what they see. Donít you suppose this is the same for Adam? Can you imagine the reaction that Adam has when he sees Eve?

 

Adam knows that Godís been talking about him needing a helper-companion, a helpmate and here is God coming to him with Eve. Adam is looking at Eve, taking her in, taking all of her in. After all, she is naked!

 

Oh, wow - he likes what he is seeing!† [whistle]

 

ďThis is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Ďwomaní, for she was taken out of the man.Ē

 

Wow, man!!!

 

He is pleased! He is delighted with this helpmate that the Lord has created for him.

 

Well, the scripture continues like this:

 

For this reason

 

-for the relationship Adam will have with his wife, the companionship, the goodness of having someone to go through life with, someone who will know him very well, better than anyone else, for the sexual relationship that he will have with his wife-

 

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

 

They will join together as a couple, they will have sex (kujamiiana katika ndoa in Kiswahili). They will become one flesh.

 

So, who created sex?† God did, didnít he? Our good God created sex, and all the touching and pleasure and enjoyment that go along with sex.† He created it for a husband and wife to enjoy.

 

Did you understand that Adam and Eve were married?† Verse 24 says ďa man will be united to his wifeĒ And again in verse 25 it says ďThe man and his wifeĒ. Yes, God created sex (and all the enjoyment that goes along with it) for a husband and wife to enjoy.

 

And he created it without sin, without any wrongness and badness to it. There wasnít any sin in the world then, was there? God created sex for a husband a wife to enjoy and he created it without sin.

 

Letís look at that last verse in Genesis 2, verse 25 in the Bible. It reads,

 

The man and his wife were both naked and they felt no shame.

 

God also created sex for a husband and wife without shame!† Now those of us who are married know that the best sex is when there is no shame, when you can relax and delight in each otherís bodies, when you are feeling free, without any shame.

 

It doesnít happen when you are embarrassed about what you are doing, when you donít feel freedom in what you are doing. Weíll be talking more about this later in this series.

 

I will tell you the best sex doesnít happen when a boyfriend and girlfriend, unmarried couple, sneak off to a guesthouse, wondering if anyone they know will see them. Sex can be much better than that. It is created to be much more than that.† Nope. Shame is not a part of really great sex.

 

But God created sex without shame for a husband and wife. They donít have any reason that they should be ashamed. Oh, when we are married and we think someone might have heard us, we get so embarrassed. But there isnít a need to. When we are married, we are supposed to be having sex.

 

God isnít ashamed of it either. Did you notice that? And at no point do you get the idea that he is embarrassed about what Adam and Eve are doing. You do not hear God saying, ďJust a minute, let me close my eyes, I donít want to know what you are doing.Ē No! There is no place you can interpret that from this scripture. And you wonít find that in the rest of the Bible either when a married couple comes together to enjoy their sexual relationship.

 

No, you get the feeling that God would say something like this, ďBless you as you come together. Enjoy this gift of sexual pleasure that I created for you as husband and wife. Delight in your bodies.Ē Those are the kind of statements that I can imagine God saying from this passage.

 

Now as I speak of sex here, I mean everything connected to it Ė not just satisfaction for the husband, but the touching and the exciting a wifeís body that a husband can do and of her coming to fulfillment.

 

Now you can wonder, quite fairly, where I get that from this passage. I donít. Stay with me the next few weeks and youíll see where the Holy Bible teaches this and youíll learn more about giving your spouse pleasure.

 

This passage of scripture in the Bible, Genesis 2:18-25 clearly teaches that God created sex for a husband and wife to enjoy. He created it without sin and without shame. It is for their pleasure and makes them one...

 

ďOne fleshĒ, the Bible says:

 

a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

 

A man and a woman are never the same after having sex. It makes them one in some way. It is not like having a dinner together. It is something very different. It changes their relationship completely.

 

In Godís design, when a husband and wife have sex, it will build up their companionship, their friendship, their relationship, their oneness. That as the years go by and they seek to give enjoyment sexually to each other, this is like glue that will hold them together Ė it makes them one.† Itís like sex makes a married couple one flesh and then continues to make them one flesh, more and more as the years go by.

 

People teach on building up that oneness in a marriage in other ways as well, to create more and more of a one flesh. It is great teaching, very valuable. Learning how to become one in the area of money, parenting, taking care of your relatives, setting goals, improving your communicationÖ all these will improve your marriage. As you improve your closeness, your oneness in marriage, you will also improve your sex life.† Learn all you can.

 

So how did God design sex?† He designed it for the enjoyment and pleasure of a husband and wife. He designed it to make that husband and wife one flesh. He designed it without sin and without shame.

 

Afterword:

We hope that you have enjoyed todayís program. Whenever you listen to Exciting True Love, please get a Bible, read the verses, study them. Just because I said something, it does not make it right.† Ask God to teach you the truth. Whether you are a Christian or not, you can say, ďGod, show me what is right here. I heard Nancy talk, but is what she says really correct?Ē You can even ask God to help you know where you have been incorrect in your thinking in the past.

 

Suppose you bought a wonderful, new phone with incredible features and you had the opportunity to learn how to use and care for it by the creator of the phone. Would you go to that knowledgeable creator and learn how to use it? Or would you go to some person you know who recently bought the same phone. They didnít even know how to use the cool features and then they broke it? Whom would you learn from?

 

Godís word tells about a group of people from the town of Berea. They were listening to a wise man named Paul preach. These Bereans, as they were called, were praised in the Bible because they listened carefully to Paul. And then they went home and examined the scriptures to see if what Paul said was true.† The Bible compares the Bereans with people from the town of Thessalonica.† This is what is said of them in Acts 17:11 in the Bible:

 

Now the Bereans were of more noble character than the Thessalonians, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true.

 

Be a Berean and see if what I say is true. Today we studied Genesis 2:18-25. If you donít have a Bible, we have the verses on our website at www.excitingtruelove.org. Be a Berean and check it out!

 

When I first began studying what the Bible had to say about sex, I was thrilled to learn what we studied today Ė that God created the sexual pleasure and fun for a husband and wife. That he created it without sin, without shame and that it made them one. But I wanted to know more.

 

I understood it was for my husband and me to enjoy but just how much could we enjoy it? Just how much freedom do we have in our sexual relationship with our spouse? Are we to enjoy only some styles?† Are some sinful while others are good? More on this next week with me, Nancy Crane, as we study further about Godís design for sex on Exciting True Love: the Truth Will Set You Free.

 

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Lessons:

Lessons:

Rounded Rectangle: 2. Love never fails.       Giving lifelong love
Rounded Rectangle: 1. Love comes from God. Gods gift to us
Rounded Rectangle: 4. Love rejoices in the truth. Giving pleasure
Rounded Rectangle: 5. Love is patient.            Giving and forgiving
Rounded Rectangle: 6. Love is kind.              Giving love in action
Rounded Rectangle: 7. Love as Christ loved. Giving as Christ gave
Rounded Rectangle: 9. Love does not delight in evil. Giving ourselves
Rounded Rectangle: 8. Love is not self seeking. Giving our bodies
Rounded Rectangle: 10. Love always hopes. Receiving Godís purity and power
Rounded Rectangle: 3. Love does not delight in evil. Giving ourselves

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