Lesson 2

       Love Never Fails

Giving Lifelong Love

Love Never Fails                                        Giving Lifelong Love

Proverbs 5: Delighting in each other forever and always

Proverbs 5:15-17,     Proverbs 5:18-19

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Bible Verses

Proverbs 5:15-17 (Amplified Bible)

15[a]Drink waters out of your own cistern [of a pure marriage relationship], and fresh running waters out of your own well.

    16Should your offspring be dispersed abroad as water brooks (that means flows) in the streets?

    17[Confine yourself to your own wife] let your children be for you alone, and not the children of strangers with you

 

Proverbs 5:18-19 (New International Version)

May your fountain be blessed, and

may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.

A loving doe, a graceful deer -

may her breasts satisfy you always,

may you ever be captivated by her love.

Notes (The full text for the lesson)

Last week on Exciting True Love – The Truth Will Set You Free we have examined Genesis 2 of the Bible to begin our study of what God’s design for sex is. We found out that God created sex, love making (kujamiiana in Kiswahili) – for a husband and wife only (katika ndoa tu).

 

We found that God created it without sin and without shame. Our God is not the least bit ashamed of kujamiiana katika ndoa as we’ll see today. Stay with us as we’ll be studying Proverbs Chapter 5 in the Holy Bible on Exciting True Love – The Truth Will Set You Free.

 

Lesson:

In the Bible, Proverbs Chapter 5 is a father speaking to his son and telling him to not go to other women for sex but rather to enjoy his wife.

 

He says don’t go to the adulteress - to that woman you aren’t married to - don’t go to her for sexual pleasures. Her paths are crooked and she doesn’t even know it. 

 

Listen to the Amplified Bible in Proverbs 5:15-17. I think it is very appropriate for our time. The father says to his son:

Drink waters out of your own cistern [of a pure marriage relationship], and fresh running waters out of your own well. Should your offspring be dispersed abroad as water brooks [that means “flows”] in the streets? [Confine yourself to your own wife] let your children be for you alone, and not the children of strangers with you.”

So, don’t go to women you aren’t married to for sex. This is what the father says to do instead as he speaks to his son.

 

We are reading from the Bible in Proverbs 5:18-19 here on Exciting True Love:

“May your fountain be blessed, and

may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.”

 

“Rejoice”, God says – not just “be barely satisfied with”. “Oh, may my wife just satisfy this sexual urge I have.” No, he doesn’t say that at all. He says “may you rejoice in your wife”.

 

“Rejoice” – think of what you rejoice in ….

 

Good grades at school: “I got a 100 on that exam!”

You rejoice in a new job: “Can you believe it? I got that job. It’s fantastic. Glory to God. It’s a great job.”

We rejoice in new baby: “Have you seen Rose’s baby girl? She’s perfect and she’s beautiful. Oh, she is so precious!”

And we rejoice in our God: “Oh God, you are so amazing. You are gracious in all your ways. Your Love is never ending. You are my Rock and I will never be shaken.”

 

God blesses men saying,

 

“May you rejoice in the wife of your youth.” 

 

“Wow, my wife is so fantastic! Isn’t she something, God! She is so beautiful. And the fun we have together when we are alone in our bedroom – Lord, I never expected such pleasures. How she responds to my touch. She is wonderful! Thank you, God”                  

 

That’s rejoicing!

 

A man cannot have boring, monotonous sex with his wife and be rejoicing in her. God doesn’t want the sexual relationship of a husband and wife to be boring!  He wants it to be so great that the husband is rejoicing in his wife!

 

Now what about this part, “the wife of your youth”? The Bible reads,

 

“May you rejoice in the wife of your youth.”

What if you don’t marry until you are older? I am sure the Lord is saying to rejoice in the wife you are married to – you don’t need to look any farther – right there, May you rejoice in her!

 

As a matter of fact, the father has just said in the previous verses, “don’t go to other women for sex”. No, don’t think that you are going to find the sexual pleasure you are wanting elsewhere. Nope!  It is to be found, developed, right at home with the wife that you are married to. May you rejoice in her!

 

The Bible goes on to say about your wife, it reads in Proverbs 5:19:

 

“A loving doe, a graceful deer - 

may her breasts satisfy you always”

 

Wow! May her breasts, her whole body satisfy you always.  Not some other woman’s breasts, but your wife’s breasts, her body, may it satisfy you always.

 

And it goes on to say:

 

“may you ever be captivated by her love,”

 

by her sexual embrace.

 

What does it mean to be captivated?  Captivated is to be so drawn into your wife that your total focus in on her, you don’t look to the left or right because you are held captive by her, in the best possible way. There is a bubbling up of good feelings inside of you when you are captivated.

 

“may you ever be captivated by [your wife’s] love,”

 

by sexual pleasures with her.

 

Wow, let’s read the Word of God one more time:

 

“May your fountain be blessed, and

may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.

A loving doe, a graceful deer - 

may her breasts satisfy you always,

may you ever be captivated by her love.”

 

Did you notice that “always” and “ever”? Is that just for the honeymoon, or the first year of marriage that her breasts are to satisfy you and that you are to be captivated by her love? Or just until she bears your first child and her body isn’t quite the same?

 

Women, girls: is “always” and “ever” just for the first four years of marriage that your body is to satisfy your husband and that he is to be captivated by your love? Or just the first 10 years of your marriage? How about the first 20 years? My husband Charlie and I have been married for over 30 years now. Is it just for the first 30 years of marriage? No, the Bible says “ALWAYS” and “EVER”!

 

I don’t think it is God’s plan for sexual happiness and pleasure to decrease with time and age. How could it be true that a husband be rejoicing in his wife and always satisfied with her body and ever captivated by her sexual embrace if that was the case? No.

 

Older couples sometimes have problems with impotence and vaginal dryness. Talk about your problems and issues with each other. Together, find solutions. A special jelly called KY Jelly can be bought at the store (duka la dawa). A small amount of that on the man’s organ will solve that couple’s vaginal dryness problem.

 

I have a secret for you. I don’t know why this secret isn’t on the headlines of all the newspapers and told to everyone, but it isn’t. It still seems to be a secret. Do you want to hear it? Here it is:

 

In a good marriage where the husband and wife give and receive sexual enjoyment from each other, sexual pleasure does not decrease with time and age.

 

We often think that the honeymoon or the first year of marriage will be the most fun sexually, the most erotic and pleasurable. Honeymoons are often fun. Some have plenty of satisfying sexual experiences, but I’ll tell you that it is just the beginning of sexual pleasures.             

 

Sexual pleasures that increase as you learn more of each other; as you go through life, tackling those tough issues and challenges, standing together as husband and wife against the onslaught of the pressures from life, society and family; as you learn more of each other’s bodies and hearts;

as you grow in openness and closeness; as you come to truly know one another and become one; 

 

In a good marriage, sex and all that goes along with it (kujamiiana katika ndoa) gets better and better through the years. No one ever told me that one, but I keep finding it true.

 

Now, anyone who is married knows that our sexual relationships don’t always get better. There are times when they are a bit boring, monotonous, disappointing. Isn’t that true? But then we can go to God and ask him to help us.

 

See, it is God’s will that a husband rejoices in his wife, that her breasts satisfy him always and that he ever be captivated by her love. So we can go to God when that isn’t happening and say,

 

“God, this is your will. It isn’t like that in my marriage now. Teach me, change me, so that this would be true in my marriage.” 

 

God will do just that. And when He speaks, He always speaks according to his character and his Word, the Bible. He will never tell you to look at pornography. He will tell you to not go to other women for sex – as Proverbs 5 states. He is likely to teach you how to be a better lover to your spouse, how to turn your thoughts just to the one you married.

 

It is likely that God will speak to you about treating your spouse in kind ways, learning to communicate as well. Good communication: learning to say what is on your heart and listening well, it’s amazing how that will improve the closeness in your marriage. And that closeness will greatly improve your sex life.

 

God’s lessons might be hard. He is likely to tell you to get rid of that girlfriend, to quit looking at other women as sexual partners. Women, he is likely to say similar things to you. It is good to obey God.

 

“May your fountain be blessed, and

may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.

A loving doe, a graceful deer - 

may her breasts satisfy you always,

may you ever be captivated by her love.”

 

That’s from Proverbs 5:18-19 in the Bible

 

Girls: may this be true of our husbands. May they rejoice in us, our bodies and our sexual-loving always!

 

Guys, men: how can you love the same woman all your life? You can because it is God’s will that you do. Not only love her, but that it would be such a pleasure that you would rejoice in her. How is this possible? If it is God’s will, he will work in us to achieve it, as much as we are willing to let him work in our lives.

 

Are you thinking, “Nancy, I would rejoice in my wife if only she would ………. [you fill it in ].” “If only she would respect me”; “If only she would stop making me angry.”?  God doesn’t work that way.  Do you realize that only your wife’s body has been created to satisfy you always?

 

“Samuel” is married to “Sarah” and their sexual relationship isn’t all that great. She agrees when he suggests it, but when he tries to touch her in ways to get her excited, she doesn’t respond. So what does he do?

 

He doesn’t get a girlfriend or a new wife: God wants Samuel to rejoice in Sarah. So how does that happen? Samuel should begin by asking God for help.

 

We want quick easy fixes to our sexual problems. [We say] “My spouse just doesn’t satisfy me; I think I’ll look elsewhere,” thinking that is going to solve our problems instead of multiply them like it does.

 

We say things like, “I deserve happiness.” God wants a lot more for you than just that, but it may take some of God’s working in your life and some tough decisions to get there.

 

I encourage you to ask God for help and to listen to Him, to obey what he is calling you to do. To do that hard training, that sitting down with your spouse and showing kindness to them, again and again, requires. Studying your husband/wife and loving them, until it may be said of you men that you rejoice in your wife, and women that it may be said of you, “That your husband rejoices in you and that he is satisfied by your body and captivated by your sexual embrace.”

 

Afterword:

Please join me in a short prayer: “God, this is your will. Work in me, change me, that this scripture might be true in my life. Amen.”

 

What an amazing thing we have learned today on Exciting True Love –that a husband take delight in his wife, that he be satisfied always with her breasts, her body and that he ever be thrilled by his wife.

 

Not only did our God create this wonderful gift of sexual pleasure for a husband and wife, he wants them to enjoy it to the fullest with each other – he wants a husband to be captivated by his wife.

 

Next week, join me, Nancy Crane, to find out if it is more important for a man to have sexual pleasure than his wife.  How much is a wife to enjoy sex with her husband? Is it selfish to enjoy your husband or wife sexually when there is work to be done?

Lessons:

Lessons:

Rounded Rectangle: 1. Love comes from God. Gods gift to us
Rounded Rectangle: 4. Love rejoices in the truth. Giving pleasure
Rounded Rectangle: 5. Love is patient.            Giving and forgiving
Rounded Rectangle: 6. Love is kind.              Giving love in action
Rounded Rectangle: 7. Love as Christ loved. Giving as Christ gave
Rounded Rectangle: 9. Love does not delight in evil. Giving ourselves
Rounded Rectangle: 8. Love is not self seeking. Giving our bodies
Rounded Rectangle: 10. Love always hopes. Receiving God’s purity and power
Rounded Rectangle: 3. Love does not delight in evil. Giving ourselves
Rounded Rectangle: 2. Love never fails.       Giving lifelong love

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